For years, I’ve been a big fan of Neil Donald Walsch’s book Conversations With God. I subscribe to his daily emails, and frankly, find myself deleting them more often than sharing or re-reading them. But today I received the greatest one of all. The following email eloquently sums up the simple process I’ve used to get us through the hardest months of our lives.
On this day of your life, Lindsay, I believe God wants you to know…
…that “Why is this happening?” is the most useless question in the Universe.
The only really profitable question is, “What?”
As in, “What do I choose now?” This question empowers.
The “why” question simply perplexes, and rarely satisfies even when it gets a good answer.
So don’t try to “figure it out.” Stop it. Just focus on what you now wish to create. Keep moving forward.
There’s nothing behind you that can possibly serve you better than your highest thoughts about tomorrow.
…Peace can exist only in the present moment. It is ridiculous to say “Wait until I finish this, then I will be free to live in peace.” What is “this”? A diploma, a job, a house, the payment of a debt? If you think that way, peace will never come. There is always another “this” that will follow the present one. If you are not living in peace at this moment, you will never be able to. If you truly want to be at peace, you must be at peace right now. Otherwise, there is only “the hope of peace some day.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh, ‘The Sun My Heart”
For the most part I feel I’ve made peace with the dramatic rearrangement of my life. Finally. Even though it waxes and wanes a bit everyday, I am more at peace than not, more often than not.
Nick is still actively seeking that peace. I can’t begin to pretend to know how strong someone must be to find peace in their heart after going through what Nick has gone through. He’s close. I can sense it in him, and he acknowledges it, but he still needs more time.
I have 100% knowing that life will be beautiful for us again one day, and that our misfortunes will allow us to see Life’s brilliant colors more vibrantly than ever before.
Resistance creates suffering.
Stress happens when your mind resists what is.
The only problem in your life is your mind’s resistance to life as it unfolds.
Nick had another excruciating phantom pain attack last night that lasted for a couple of hours, and then intermittently visited him in his dreams once he finally fell asleep.
Sometimes it’s obvious that life is improving, and sometimes it’s just too difficult to comprehend.