If you’re not interested to know about mine and Nicks love life, then don’t read this post.
If you’re my Dad, don’t read this post!
Okay, I’ve warned you.
So Nick and I have essentially lost our sex life. It’s gone. A spinal cord injury will do that to ya. He has no physical feelings of the sexual nature what so ever. And it’s something we’ve pretty much been ignoring. Since we’ve been home for the past seven months, I can count on one hand the number of times we’ve attempted to “fool around.” And with each endeavor, it’s always the same outcome: submitting to the current fact that the spinal cord injury has robbed him of this basic human function. But today was a little different. Last week we talked to his doctor and got a few pill samples. You know, the stuff Bob Dole makes commercials about? I wish with all my might that I could say it worked, but it didn’t.
But here’s how we turned today’s experience into a win for us… We had fun. Now, I won’t go into any details, but I will say that we just enjoyed each others company, without the usual disappointments or bad feelings. We hope his functioning will return, but we’re starting to find more acceptance in what “is” for right now. I’m not saying we’re giving up hope. In fact, we haven’t even scratched the surface of possible solutions to this problem. We’re just getting started to explore the possibilities. I love him no matter what. This is the saddest part about Nicks injuries, but I refuse to sing a sad song about it because at least I still have him by my side. And even though we are currently limited in the bedroom, our relationship and bond is stronger than ever. Now THAT is a successful love life, if you ask me.
At Project Walk, Nick got a killer workout with Bri. She had him rolling back and forth on his back, and then coming up to standing, using his momentum. It hurt his tailbone, but was incredibly useful for strengthening his balance. He was also walking sideways and backward with the hand crutches, while attached to the walking harness. His legs are getting so much more muscular now because he’s doing weighted exercises at every visit. After only a few short weeks, he’s really kicking ass.